Tuesday, 30 September 2014

The Insanity that is Nairobi's Subaru Drivers

Nairobi's Thika Superhighway
Yesterday morning, a middle aged man was knocked and killed by a Subaru Forester driver along Nairobi's Thika Highway. Last week on Sunday on the same highway, I was almost ran over by an overzealous Subaru Driver near Utalii Hotel. Frankly speaking, the young man was driving as if he was to land on the moon.

Friday, 26 September 2014

Signs He's Just Not that Into You

Ladies, does this sound familiar: you love him to death but you are not sure if he loves you. He gives you mixed signals regarding the relationship or his commitment. Sometimes he seems to be so into you, other times, well, not as much.

Monday, 22 September 2014

Forget Kenyan Socialites and Campus Divas, My Grandma is the Real Deal

My grandma
When my grandpa (may the gods rest his soul in eternal pleasure), married my thin-skinned luhya fundamentalist grandma at a small mud-walled dusty church in Nambacha village in Kakamega County decades ago, her clan slapped grandpa with an invoice reading four skinny cows, an ugly Zebu bull and a dozen kuku ya kienyeji.

Wednesday, 17 September 2014

The day I was arrested for speeding

My aim, as usual was to take slightly under 5 hours to travel from Kitale to Nairobi, a distance of 358Km. In any case, I've driven on this route many times than I could care to count.

Tuesday, 16 September 2014

3 Signs that he might be cheating on you - By Debbie Harrower

Before I met the most amazing man just over a year ago, I had had only two previous relationships. Both were long term and both were with men much older than I. They both cheated on me. The first guy cheated on me with one of my friends. We had been going out for about three years. I was so young, that only after I had found out (she came clean after one too many drinks) could I look back and see all the signs. While I was in the thick of things, I thought everything was fine between us. So naive.

Wednesday, 10 September 2014

There's a Reason Why an Ex is an Ex

A while ago, I had the displeasure of bumping into my ex. She was in the company of her husband and daughter, and although she tried to force a smile on her now pale and rugged face, I could tell she wasn't happy. After a few chit chats, we parted ways. Two hours later, she had sent me an SMS, suggesting that "we hook up for a drink"... since "she had a confession to make." Sweetheart, we broke up 3 years ago, what possibly of a confession do you have to make to me, I had wondered, albeit silently. 

Monday, 8 September 2014

The Irony of Fake Women Looking for Mr. Right

In the dating and relationship world, everyone has their value. As an individual, your value is determined by various factors, key among them in my opinion is how you present yourself to your prospective partner or lover. Look at it as promoting or marketing a product to a potential buyer. Of course, the product has to have certain competitive attributes that are desirable and attractive to the buyer. This attributes range from value for money, quality, packaging, authenticity, price among other things.

Thursday, 4 September 2014

Signs She Will Make a Good Wife

Marriage is one of the most important things - and one of the most life-changing endeavors - any of us will undertake in life. You have to be absolutely sure that the woman in your life is someone you’ll be happy spending time with day in and day out, and certain characteristics can make it a little clearer to you that she’s the one. Here are 10 signs that the woman in your life will make a good wife.

1. She’s trustworthy and loyal. A great wife loves her man…flaws and all, and takes the time to show him how much she appreciates him every day and will not be out doing something she shouldn’t be when you are apart. This type of woman is ready to go to war with you and take on whatever obstacle life presents.

2. She’s emotionally stable. Your future bride should display confidence, have a real life of her own, be able to stand on her own emotionally and should be happily going in her own positive direction with no signs of emotional baggage. Furthermore, she should be able to meet you at an intellectual level, constantly surprise you, keep you on your toes and deepen your attraction past the physical realm.

3. The two of you have similar interests. If there are things you both like to do, that’s a good sign you are entering a marriage of happiness and longevity.

4. She respects you. The woman you decide to marry should be a genuine person who considers you in every situation and will be on your side no matter what. She should not be the type that will be checking out other guys, but will keep her attention focused on you, the man in her life.

5. The two of you have great communication. There is nothing more important in a relationship than communication, and if you are considering making it official by marrying her, you have to feel comfortable talking with her about any and everything. The more you communicate with your woman, the less likely the two of you will get into arguments because you both will be able to talk about your problems instead of holding them in.

6. You have great intimacy together. The way you relate to each other in the bedroom has a big influence on whether the two of you will stay together after wedding vows are exchanged, so the intimacy between the two of you should be on point.

7. The two of you can laugh together. Mutual laughter is an essential component of a strong and healthy marriage. Romance is much better if you can see humor in the little things and can have a laugh together.

8. Her finances are in order. When you get married you will accumulate debt together, but you don’t want to marry someone who is up to her neck in debt and has no income. You may feel you should be taking care of her, but it still feels good knowing you have someone who has a reliable job, good credit and is responsible when it comes to managing her money.

9. She’s beautiful inside and out. The woman you decide to marry should be beautiful on the inside and the outside and will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself. This doesn’t mean that she has to look like a model, but she should be so well put together that you’ll be proud to have her on your arm and enjoy the sight of her in any light.

10. You are both in agreement on kids. No marriage will thrive, nor perhaps will any marriage survive, in which one spouse wants children and the other rejects any notion of children. When considering marriage, if both of you are in agreement on the notion of children, you will likely be entering into a pleasurable, long-term marriage.

Tuesday, 2 September 2014

Signs She Will Make a Bad Wife

If you’re thinking of asking your girlfriend to become your wife, deciding if you’re ready to make the commitment to marriage is only half the battle. You have to be absolutely sure that the woman in your life is someone you’ll be happy spending time with day in and day out. Love alone is not enough to make a marriage work, and certain characteristics are warning signs for a troubled marriage down the road. Here are some of the most obvious signs that your girlfriend is not marriage material.

1. She cuts you off from loved ones. A girlfriend who always becomes sick when it’s time to spend quality time with your family and even forbids you from hanging out with your friends will only act worse after you say your vows.

2. She bails on you when times get tough. Life isn’t always a bowl of cherries, but that doesn’t mean that the woman in your life should just disappear when the times get tough. If your girlfriend is not supportive of you emotionally through difficult times and only stands by you when things are going good, she’s not the one you should be walking down the aisle with.

3. She displays psychotic behaviors. A woman who breeds chaos, misunderstanding and insanity might not be the best person to swear your undying loyalty to. If she displays severe psychological problems now, imagine what kind of influence her crazy and irrational behaviors will have on your future. Marrying a woman like this will most likely ruin your life and your perception of women forever.

4. She’s too clingy. If your girlfriend can’t go anywhere or do anything without you, calls you twenty times a day and destroys any chance of you missing her because because the two of you are never apart, she’s going to make a bad wife.

5. She has nothing going on for herself
. You should want to marry a woman who has goals and brings something better to your life, not one who is up to her neck in debt, has no income, displays unpredictable behaviors and has tried numerous, short-lived career paths yet never knows what she wants in life. This type of fickle lifestyle could derail your own life plan as well.

6. She’s controlling. If your girlfriend controls all of your conversations, constantly forces you into agreeing with her and acts as an overbearing, emotional bully, it’ll only get worse after you say “I do.”

7. She’s already cheated on you. Do you honestly believe that a woman is marriage material if she has been unfaithful to you while you were dating? Yes, a person can always change and learn from their mistakes; however, a cheating girlfriend will more than likely continue to be unfaithful after marriage.

8. Her libido doesn’t match yours. Another sign that she’ll make a bad wife is if her libido differs wildly from yours. The way you relate to each other in the bedroom has a big influence on whether the two of you will stay together after wedding vows are exchanged, so it’s best to work this out before you walk down the aisle.

9. She’s extremely jealous. Although a little bit of jealousy is essential for a healthy relationship, extreme jealousy arises in a relationship because of high levels of insecurity. If your girlfriend is jealous of every girl who comes near you, refuses to accept that you have female friends and feels threatened when you discuss your previous relationships, putting a ring on her finger is not going to make her more secure.

10. She can’t admit when she’s wrong. If she always seems to have the upper hand in arguments, refuses to admit her faults or even treat you as an equal, she’s not the marrying kind. 

Interested in the other side of the story, check out Signs She Will Make a Good Wife